The New Sisterhood: Teenage Pregnancy Pacts


Our teens are fighting in a war that they can’t handle themselves.

This is just one of the many “pregnancy pacts” that teenage girls in communities and schools across the country are participating in. The girls create these pacts to form a sisterhood. They want to feel apart of something and have an image they can all identify with. Unfortunately, they’ve chosen to be young, single parents, birthing these children into an environment of instability and poverty, instead of aspiring to be lawyers, doctors, writers, engineers and scientists. Instead of game parties and movie nights, our teen girls are a apart of a group effort to get pregnant and give birth together.

The first suspected pregnancy pact to make news was in 2008 at a Massachusetts high school where 17 girls were pregnant at the same time. Local officials had said that many of the alleged fathers were in their 20′s, including one man who appeared to be homeless. Others were boys at the school.

Television shows like “Teen Mom” on MTV glorify the culture of teen pregnancies on a national stage, showing season after season of young women who are barely adults struggling to raise a child. These families are paid to live dysfunctional and destructive lives with no true emphasis on the result of being a teen parent, but screaming matches and custody battles instead. No one considers the affect this will have on the innocent infants as they grow up. The first few shows attempted to have a “teen pregnancy is bad” theme, but quickly changed as the teen mothers began to grace magazine covers and cable television interviews. Now, teen girls across the nation are reportedly trying to get pregnant just to be on the show and get a taste of fame.

Teen Mom 2′s Leah Masser, who already has a set of twins with her ex-husband, announced she was pregnant once again in January of this year. The 19-year-old nursing student told In Touch Magazine she was struggling financially and was hoping to get a spin-off show with this pregnancy.  A few weeks after that interview, she had a miscarriage.

The copycat factor definitely influences the audience of impressionable teenagers. It’s no secret that social media has fueled this behavior as well. But there is a deeper issue within our own community relating to teen pregnancy that needs to be identified and addressed. Our girls should not have to feel that the only way they can have a strong bond or sisterhood with others is through a pregnancy pact.

These smiles should be on the faces of young women who just took got a college acceptance letter or are getting ready to graduate from high school. But instead they are on the faces of young girls who are misguided and uneducated on the realities of being a teenage parent. Perhaps schools should start inviting adult women who were teenage mothers in for motivational talks to let the girls know this is not a path that one willingly chooses to take. Our girls have to know there is more to life and better goals to reach than being a teen parent. If they have the motivation to plan and carry this out, imagine the things they can accomplish if they knew what types of positive paths were within their reach.

Another topic that many feel is taboo is allowing schools to give out condoms to students. Is this something that should be considered? Or do we continue to say “Let their parents teach them”? With the growing number of teacher-student sexual harassment and assault cases, it’s hard to say which authoritative figure-parent or teacher-should handle the responsibility of teaching teenagers about safe sex. I’m not encouraging teens having sex, but being realistic about the fact that they are already doing it and being aware of the fact that teen pregnancy rates are clearly a factor in our society.

Not only do we need to be concerned about pregnancy, but STD’s as well. HIV/AIDS is REAL and on a skyrocketing trend in the black community among young men and women.

Our teenagers are on a runaway train to destruction. What can we do to save them?

Rev. Sharpton FBI Informant… Old News Or Relevant Today


Activist say that without doubt, Reverend Al Sharpton tried to set up for the re-capture the FBI wanted escapee/fugitive Joann Chesimard aka; Assata Shukur!

By Ron Howell, Newsday, Friday 21 October 1988

The Rev. Al Sharpton, who has worked as a federal informant, tried to set up a meeting with black fugitive radical JoAnne Chesimard in 1983, according to activists who said they were approached by Sharpton.

JoAnne Chesimard

The black activists said they feared Sharpton was trying to deliver Chesimard into the arms of federal agents, but said they had no proof.

One law-enforcement source, who declined to be identified but has detailed knowledge of Sharpton’s activities as an FBI informant, said this week that Sharpton was working as an informant at the time he sought to meet Chesimard. The source said that one of Sharpton’s assignments was to try to lead agents to Chesimard, who escaped from prison in 1979 after being convicted in the killing a New Jersey state trooper.

It wasn’t a big massive operation. It was just a small shot, an everyday deal, the source said. I would equate it with setting up 10 traps a day trying to catch a fox . . . He said Sharpton was not a major participant in the search for the woman, who goes by the African name Assata Shakur.

A top FBI official said that Sharpton was not used in any manner to lure Shakur into a trap. This is the first I’m hearing of it, it’s bull———, FBI Assistant Deputy Director Kenneth Walton, who led the Shakur investigation, said earlier this week.

Sharpton flatly denied trying to make contact with Shakur.

Newsday reported in January that beginning in 1983 Sharpton secretly supplied federal law enforcement agencies with information on boxing promoter Don King, reputed organized crime figures and black leaders and elected officials. And in a two-hour interview, Sharpton admitted to Newsday that he had assisted the government in drug and organized crime cases. He said he also accompanied undercover federal agents wearing body recorders to meetings with various subjects of federal investigations. He said he had allowed the U.S. attorney’s office for the Eastern District of New York to install a tapped telephone in his Brooklyn home.

Sharpton has insisted he never turned over information on black radicals or on King.

This week, Sharpton denied assertions by Ahmed Obafemi, a long-time activist, and Kwame Brathwaite, an activist and photographer who says Sharpton asked him to set up an encounter with Obafemi. Both men say that Obafemi acted as the intermediary in the failed discussions with Sharpton to reach Shakur.

Sharpton called the men liars and said they were possibly police agents. He charged they are part of an element in the black community that has lost out . . . and that will fabricate any story out of jealousy because they have no following . . .

Obafemi, the national organizer for the New Afrikan People’s Organization, said Sharpton met with him in Manhattan at least four times in 1983, over a period of about two months. He said that Sharpton offered to donate money to help black revolutionaries running from the law and that Sharpton was particularly interested in setting up a meeting with Shakur, once referred to as the soul of the Black Liberation Army.

Sharpton told Obafemi he was representing two former Black Panthers, who wanted to see Shakur, according to Obafemi.

The ex-Panthers were supposedly trying to make useful contacts in case they had to flee the country someday, Obafemi said he was told.

The first discussion was that they were close to her, that they had been in the [Black Panther] party with her and that they wanted to talk to her, Obafemi said. I wanted to find out who they were, but he said they really didn’t want to be known.

Shakur was once a member of the Black Panther Party, but went underground around 1971 because she said she believed the group was being infiltrated by city and federal law enforcement officers.

The 1983 deal fell through at a final meeting when Sharpton insisted that money would be donated only if the two former Panthers could meet Shakur. Failing that, Obafemi said, Sharpton was interested in making any kind of contact with her or with any of her close associates also on the run from the law. Naturally, I never got back to him, said Obafemi, whose organization believes that blacks should have their own country within the United States and that they have the right to fight for it.

Obviously we had to feel that a definite possibility existed he was working for the government, and we would have felt that way about him or anybody else who approached us in that manner, said Chokwe Lumumba, an attorney and chairman of the New Afrikan People’s Organization.

Lumumba had been informed in 1983 by Obafemi about Sharpton’s proposal. The attorney said his organization was more interested in getting information about Sharpton’s motives than in receiving money from him. I can’t say that we were able to make any definite conclusions about whether Sharpton was acting as an agent for the government, Lumumba said.

Both Lumumba and Obafemi denied knowing where Shakur was at the time.

Sharpton’s first broached his interest in Shakur during a chance encounter with Brathwaite, a black nationalist, Brathwaite said. Brathwaite said he happened to run into Sharpton one day in midtown but he could not remember the month. Already acquainted with each other from entertainment circles, the two men started talking and Sharpton said he wanted to make a donation to Assata, Brathwaite said.

A day or two later, Brathwaite told Obafemi of the offer. I told him to watch out, said Brathwaite. I knew that authorities were trying to find out where she [Assata Shakur] was and that they were trying to get close to somebody who was close to her . . . And then I just knew that he’s always been a hustler.

Last year, Newsday disclosed that Shakur was given political asylum in Cuba and was living there with her daughter, now 14 years old. She is probably the most sought-after of the 1970s radicals linked to bank robberies and police killings over a 10-year span.

The specific amount of the contribution Sharpton said he was prepared to make in 1983 on behalf of the ex-Panthers was not discussed, Obafemi said; but Sharpton said the prospective contributors gained the money by ripping off the system, Obafemi recalled.

He said that at least two of the meetings occurred in a luxurious apartment at 30 Lincoln Plaza, near Lincoln Center. That was the building where, according to a law enforcement source and a report published in the Feb. 2, 1988 edition of The Village Voice, a federal agent using the name Victor Quintana set up an apartment in 1983 or earlier to lure boxing world denizens suspected of illegal activity. Quintana in that year ensnared Sharpton into working for the FBI, New York Newsday reported in January.

The Village Voice article reported that apartment was on the 29th floor, but Obafemi could not recall the floor on which he had his rendezvous with Sharpton. Sharpton lives in Brooklyn and Obafemi said he did not explain why Sharpton had access to the apartment. He made me think it was his, said Obafemi. I was saying (to myself), ’What kind of money must they have to have a spot in here.’ He had the keys and everything.

Sharpton denied this week ever being in the building.

Obafemi said that up until 1983 he knew Sharpton only as the head of a youth organization, the National Youth Movement, and as someone with vague connections in the entertainment world.

Obafemi is the ex-husband of Nehanda Obafemi, once known as Cheri Laverne Dalton, who is still wanted by the federal government in connection with the notorious Brink’s robbery which took place seven years ago yesterday. She is allegedly connected to the group of black and white revolutionaries convicted in the Brink’s heist. A guard and two police officers were killed in that incident, which took place upstate near Nyack.

In 1983, Obafemi was busy trying to gain support in the black community for the people arrested in the Brink’s case. In October of that year, several blacks and whites were convicted in that robbery and in the highly planned breakout of Shakur from prison in 1979.

The law enforcement source implicating Sharpton in the hunt for Assata Shakur said that Sharpton was also, secondarily, trying to help agents get other fugitives, especially Mutulu Shakur, who was still on the run at that time. Mutulu Shakur, no relation to Assata, was later apprehended and convicted in connection with the Brink’s robbery and the escape of Assata Shakur.

Robert E. Kessler contributed to this story.

[***The following appeared in the City version***Brathwaite is the brother of Elombe Brath, an official of a black nationalist organization called the Patrice Lumumba Coalition. Brath and several associates have been opposed to Sharpton because of his FBI ties. ]

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Who’s The Baby Daddy???


From blackvoices.com:

A new study shows that the rate of American women who have children with multiple fathers, also called “multiple-father family structure,” is “pervasive.”

According to the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, 1 in 5 American Moms has kids with different birth fathers.

And you probably already know what’s next.

Black Mothers lead the list: 59 percent of us have children with more than one father, while Hispanics come in second place at 35 percent and whites come in last at 22 percent.
According to the study’s author Cassandra Dorius, a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, “[Mothers with multiple fathers for their children] are more likely to be underemployed, to have lower incomes and to be less educated.”

According to the study, families with multiple fathers are stressed out, with issues often arising about how to consistently raise a child in different households:

“Everyday decisions are more complex and family rules are more ambiguous,” Dorius says. “Families need to figure out who lives with whom and when, who pays for things like clothing, who is responsible for child support.”

The most unsettling theory about the high rate of children with different fathers is when the study considers what the outcome will be for the children involved:

“It’s possible that some of these kids will be multiply disadvantaged.”

Esteemed psychologist of the “Today Show” and resident psychologist of VH-1′s “Daddy Day Camp” Dr. Jeff Gardere, talked with BlackVoices.com about this issue:

“In the past, multiple fathers was more of a product of poverty and the ravages of racism in the black community. And we do know that it caused more conflict and confusion for the kids and a harder time for mom’s to manage.”

Unlike study author Dorius’ assessment, Dr. Gardere doesn’t see a bleak picture for the majority of children who are brought up in households with multiple fathers:

“Kids can still thrive psychologically when there has been more than one father in the lives of their families.”

To Dr. Gardere, this latest study actually exposes a positive development in society:

“I believe that instead of just seeing this as a deficit issue, I want to look at it from a strength base view point. It now seems this phenomenon may be based not just on poverty and racism, but more on the issues of lower marriage rates, higher divorce rates, less available men who are willing to totally commit and women who can either go it alone or manage the situation with multiple fathers.”

Honestly, I think we do ourselves — and our children — a disservice by trying to put a positive spin on these findings. It is no secret that many of our children are not only growing up with multiple fathers but without fathers.

And we see how far that has gotten us.

I think I can speak for most black women that no one plans to have children by different men. For many of these women, the children produced with different men occur in unplanned pregnancies.

Now sure, many will argue that black women definitely need to be more discerning about the men that they sleep with and use birth control — and they are right.

But it isn’t as though some black women haven’t been able to come up with this on their own. There are, albeit not as many, a number of black women, who I know personally, who refuse to have a child out of wedlock. Some of these women are still waiting to conceive deep in to their 40s with no suitor in sight.

So there is a problem.

And the other side of that problem is indeed some black men.

For some of those hardworking Mothers with different baby daddys, there is a major discrepancy between what they and their significant other want. I don’t know how many black men I’ve seen who will date the Mother of their children for years.

These men love their children and more often than not take care of their responsibilities, but when it comes to making the relationships they have with their women official, there’s a lot of backpedaling.

When I have asked jokingly (no pressure) when they are going to put a ring on their lady’s finger, they are quick to say that they aren’t the marrying type — too bad they didn’t realize that they also aren’t the father type.

And when said woman gets tired of waiting, she often breaks it off with her child’s father and starts the next relationship anew, hoping that this relationship will be the one that finally elevates her from “girlfriend” and “baby’s mama” to “wife.”

And for many, their day hasn’t come yet: the last wasted relationship is followed by yet another and another, and children are unfortunately created in between.

Black women need to shoulder their share of the responsibility about using birth control until a man has proven that he wants to be in a committed relationship (read: married). But there is an equally troubling issue with some black men: why are they comfortable “dating” their baby mama for 10 years and never making it official, causing many of these kids to be born out of wedlock?

This question — and so many others — needs answering.

We owe it to our children.

What do you all think about this??? Is it the man’s fault, woman’s fault, or both?

Just Do it.


 

It is said that perception is reality.  Consider this perception:  88% of Americans who claim to be affiliated with the Tea Party Movement believe that if African-Americans would  work hard like other immigrant groups, it would put them on an equal socio-economic level with the rest of America.   56% of all Americans have these same perceptions.

In this “post-racial” America  these type of numbers reflect how mis-informed so many of us are about the factors that affect group mobility in this country.  As a nation we still have much teaching to do in order to change these grossly over-simplified, incorrect perceptions that make second-class citizenship a continued reality for large portions of our society.

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I Need Answers….


I have questions and I want answers from everyone who reads this blog. I am not attempting to ignite any fires, but as a 21 year old Black woman trying to make a positive mark in this world, I need answers to these questions from white people and black people alike. I will not judge you for what you say (I can’t speak for other commentators however), I am just curious. Let’s begin:

#1. Why is it when white people tan, it’s ok, but when black people use skin bleaching creams it’s  form of “self-hate”?

 

#2. Why is it when white people wear extensions and get perms to make their hair curly, it’s ok, but when black people wear extensions and get perms to make their hair straight, it’s “being unhappy in their skin”

#3. Why is blonde hair and blue eyes the standard of beauty? Can White America not stand to see someone with darker skin be more successful, more talented than them? Is this why black people skin bleach–because society says “white is right”

 

 

#4. What the hell happened to Barbie?

#5. Why do so many plus-sized celebrities say they are sooo comfortable in their skin, they don’t mind being overweight, but then two years later, they lose all the weight…does the new Barbie have something to do with this?

 

She hasn't loss weight, but is she accepted as beautiful in our society?

#6. Why is President Obama referred to as the first black president instead of bi-racial president? Is that not PC? Is it ok to ignore the white half of him? Or is it the “one-drop rule” that makes him completely black?

#7. Why is Charlie Sheen seen as a hero, entertaining, ratings on his show  shooting through the roof, selling out comedy shows and being applauded for “winning” across the nation during his crack binges but Bobby and Whitney were hung on the cross?

#8. Is this what kids are learning in cartoons?

#9. Juan Williams said a few days ago “You think that simply saying what you think is evidence of bigotry that all of a sudden it’s as if you were walking by a black man that would mean if you were bigoted if you were somewhat nervous. Let me just tell you, with the amount of black on black crime in America, I get nervous and I’m a black man.” on the O’Reilly factor. Is it ok for him, as a Black man to say he is afraid of his own people? If he was white and said this, what would happen? Or does it not matter because of the negative stereotype already stamped on Black men?

 

 

I’m listening….